A good parent ...
Un bon parent ...
Always encourage his children; always listen carefully; give his children the freedom to choose for their own.
can understand the perspective of the child
cares for his or her family emotionally and financially, and stands up for the well-being of his or her children.
gives children enough freedom,
wants children to be better than he or she is, has a large impact on well-being of child later in life
is accepting, warm, responsible
is gentle and respected.
is harsh but loving, and pushes their child to do great things by presenting them with opportunities.
is loving, caring, understanding.
is one that supports you, listens, and helps you grow as a person.
is one that teaches morality and disciplines kids.
is one that truly does what is best for their children, who takes interest in what they do.
is one who cares for their children and protects them from bad influences until the children are adults.
is someone who is able to advise and support in any life situation, giving enough space to experiment.
listens to his children, plays with them, and helps them learn.
loves unconditionally.
loving, supporting, truthful
nevers hits or yells, always listens and is firm but understanding. A good parent wants the best for their child.
One who is understanding and supportive but not too restrictive
patient, loving, caring
provides guidance, but lets their children make their own mistakes sometimes.
raises their children to be decent human beings.
respects their child, uses positive reinforcement, and understands that it is a marathon, not a sprint.
support the family, listens to the children and teaches them the right value
supportive, caring, disciplinarian
understanding, caring, loving
aime, éduque correctement ses enfants et leur donne les possibilités de réussir.
attentif, strict, autoritaire
attentionné, strict, cherche le bonheur de ses enfants
à l'écoute, pas oppressant, une personne en qui on a confiance
écoute, aide à faire les choix,
est présent
éduque correctement son enfant, est capable de prendre du recul par rapport à ses attentes, sait écouter, sait conseiller.
compréhensif, présent, conseiller
doit être un soutien autant moral que financier et doit nous pousser à faire notre maximum.
est attentif, compréhensif, sait se faire respecter sans faire de chantage
est à l'écoute mais n'impose pas à ses enfants. Il sait guider sans obliger.
est gentil, attentionné, tendre.
est laxiste en faisant attention aux abus
ferme, attentif, strict, cultivé
guide son enfant vers l'âge adulte en influençant ses choix par des conseils, sans jamais imposer sa propre volonté.
nous fait confiance dans les limites de nos excès, pas trop proche mais à l'écoute.
présent, à l'écoute, attentif, disponible
responsabilisant, aimant, rassurant.
se fait respecter sans être autoritaire.
un bon parent donne des conseils à ses enfants, a de l'autorité et soutient sa famille.
un parent toujours là pour m'apporter ses conseils, mais qui me laisse une totale indépendance.
Discussion
Bonjour à tous,
On peut voir des reponses similaires de notre point de vue et du votre. Cela me surprend quelque peu, puisque dans l'exercice "word association" nous avons pu déceler une grande différence, surtout par l'utilisation du mot "love", pour définir la famille. Il n'y a pas mention du mot autorité. Quelle est votre rapport avec la notion d'autorité parentale ?
Parents are definitely regarded as authority figures by most people. After all, their job is to raise their children to become functional members of society, and this can't be done without at least some authority over their children. For me, when I first think of "family" I think of love and happiness and support, but when I think about my parents some more, I think of rules and discipline. Still, I like to focus on the loving aspects of my family. It makes me happy. :)
I noticed that there were more American responses than French responses that referred to giving children freedom or independence. Do you think a parent helps or hurts their children when they relax their parental authority?
I think the most important role of parents is to teach their kids the right discipline. But how to teach is a hard question. From the Americans' answers, giving the kids freedom to try and learn from life, but always supporting them behind are the right way to teach. However, for French students, it seems the parents should be firm and have the responsibility to keep their kids from bad influences.
When do you think can the parents relax their authority over their kids?
Certains pensent qu’un bon parent laisse l’enfant faire ses propres choix de vie, mais également faire ses propres erreurs pour appréhender la vie adulte. Mais les limites de cette liberté laissée à l’enfant est difficile à déterminer. Quand doit-on imposer ces limites ? Nos parents ont eu une expérience de vie qui leur permet de connaitre certain piège de la jeunesse. Mais chaque jeunesse n’est elle pas différente ?
Je pense qu’il est tout simplement difficile de situer la limite optimale entre discipline et liberté, tant cela doit s’adapter au cas par cas.
Beaucoup de parents éduquent inconsciemment leur enfant pour qu’il devienne ce qu’ils auraient voulu devenir.
I think, as you said, that choosing how much freedom a child has depends on the child and how much you trust him or her. Also, it probably also depends on the situation. Overall, I think both sides thought a parent should allow their children to exercise some freedom while still keeping their children from harm and teaching them moral values.
I was wondering if there is a difference between the role of the father and the role of the mother. In the US, traditionally, the role of the mother was to stay at home and keep a close eye on the children, and the father to be the ultimate authority figure. In modern times, these roles have mingled somewhat, especially as women have assumed a more active role in the labor force, and the mother and father often share the parental duties equally. How is it in France? Is it still more traditional? Also, what do people generally think of working mothers? Is it looked down upon, or is it more accepted?
I was curious what the relationship between French parents and french "children" is as the children grow up. As in, as the child grows up, when are they generally considered independent from their parents? And how does the definition of "good parent" change as the child grows up? For example, I would answer the question differently for a good parent of a small child (which I think most of us thought of when we were answering this forum) and a college student or an adult. I think a good parent for college age kids still offers guidance, but does not hover or intervene nearly as much as for a younger child. I also believe a good parent will become more and more like a friend as the child grows up.
Pour Yotam Aron,
le rôle du père et de la mère etait dans les esprits traditionellement comem aux US mais bien sur maintenant ce n'est plus le cas du tout. Les mères qui travaillent sont très bien acceptées en France.
Je vous rejoins sur le fait que les relations parents/enfants évoluent forcément au cours du temps.
I think the idea parents should mostly provide discipline varies for different people. I wasn't born in the US, but for me, my parents provided minimal discipline, and I did not really regard them as authority figures. I felt that their main role was to support me.