A friend of yours has written private information about you on Facebook.

Un(e) de vos ami(e)s a révélé des informations privées sur vous sur Facebook.

Ask the friend to delete it and explain why he shouldn't do it. again

Ask them to remove it

Ask them to take it down.

confront her and make her delete the information

Confront the friend angrily. If they cannot respect my privacy, they are no friend of mine.

Confront them and tell them to take it down.

e-mail him asking him to remove it.

I talk to him personally.

I will talk to him in person.

I would ask them to stop.

I would be angry and would tell the friend to delete it.

I would confront my friend about it

I would request that my friend remove the private information.

I would speak to her about taking it off the site.

I would talk to her and ask her to remove it.

I would try to have it removed, and be mad at my friend for posting it.

I'll tell him or her I don't like people share my private information online.

I'll tell him/her in private to remove it.

If it is offensive, I would check the 'Remove' option so it would no longer be public. If that is not possible, I would message them to take it off.

If it offended me, I would ask to have it removed.

Remove it. Privately tell the friend not to do so again.

Tell them they must delete it, as it's not theirs to share.

tell them to take it down promptly

That is odd. I would question their actions.

You talk to this friend and ask him to delete it. If this friend doesn't, you contact the Facebook corporation and ask them to delete it.

Ca tombe bien, je ne vais jamais sur Facebook.

Est ce que tu peux retirer ce que tu as mis, ca te concerne pas, merci

Il (elle) n'est plus mon ami(e).

il est difficile de me vexer, j'assume ce qu'on peut dire à mon sujet, mais je n'hésiterai pas à lui dire ce que je pense.

je fais le nécessaire pour contrôler ces informations

Je le bloque et en parle avec lui en privé.

je le dispute (je ne suis de tout façon pas sur Facebook)

Je le supprime de Facebook, et ne lui confie plus rien de personnel ou d'important.

je les efface ou lui demande de le faire si ces informations sont compromettantes

Je lui demande d'enlever ces informations.

Je lui demande de les retirer et de les effacer.

je lui dis que cela ne se fait pas en m'énervant contre lui

Je m'explique avec lui et même je pardonne, je ne peux plus lui faire confiance.

je me sens profondément trahi et je le réprimande

Je peux les retirer directement, ou en parler à cet ami si besoin. Ceci risque de m'énerver

je suis énervé et je m'explique avec la personne

Je vais lui demander pourquoi il a fait ça, et si l'information est gênante, je lui demande de la retirer.

Je vais lui parler en privé pour lui exprimer mon mécontentement.

si ce n'est pas une blague et que cela me fait du mal, je l'efface et m'explique avec lui.

Si ces informations sont fausses et/ou compromettantes, j'appelle cet ami et lui demande de retirer ce qu'il a écrit.

Si j'ai mis ces informations disponibles sur facebook c'est que j'accepte que les gens les voient. Sinon je n'avais qu'à pas les mettre.

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"je lui en parle et lui demande de les retirer"

Certains sont énervés ou vexés, d'autres non, on en compte autant de chaque côté...

La question qui se pose le plus souvent d'après moi c'est:

Qu'est ce que vous pensez du fait que les gens dévoilent leur vie privée à "tout le monde" (tous leurs amis plus ou moins proches en tout cas)? est ce un phénomène de société? est-ce normal? est-ce vraiment nouveau vu qu'il y avait myspace avant?

Pourquoi facebook marche-t-il si bien!?

Une autre question:

On entend de plus en plus souvent dire ici que les recruteurs commencent à utiliser facebook pour se renseigner sur les candidats!

Est-ce le cas chez vous aussi?

Mon avis est que du moment que notre profil n'est accessible qu'à nos "amis" et qu'on n'accepte pas les gens sans savoir qui ils sont alors il n'y a pas vraiment de risque.

That's an interesting question. I think Facebook is too public and now that you mention it, it is actually interesting how people like to share their private world with everyone. I guess it's like a socializing place online and I think it's not just with facebook. The internet has gave brought to us many online socializing tools that in a way exposes our private lives.

In Korea, for example, we have something called cyworld. I like it more than facebook because although it relates you with friends and the friends of that friends, you can keep things private as much as you want. You can choose to hide some things or not, to specific people etc. But the side effect is that it takes up a lot of time and people like me wouldn't really bother to do it. So although Facebook is somewhat too personal I just use it because it's more simple.

I guess people on Facebook are not really trying to show their private world to make connections with people and to communicate. And I think this phenomenon will continue to expand with increasing internet users.

I use Facebook primarily to keep in touch with people. Especially now that I'm in college, I don't see my family and high school friends every day like I used to, so it's nice to have an easy way to keep them informed about what I'm doing. They have better privacy settings on Facebook now than they did before. I know people who aren't my Facebook friends can't see my profile picture, for example. I agree that if you're careful about your privacy settings and who you add as a friend, Facebook can be safe. 

Since elementary school I've received internet safety instructions from my teachers. The schools also hold information sessions for parents to teach them how to keep their kids safe on the internet. Do French schools instruct their students on internet safety?

To answer Pierre's question, it is definitely the case that job recruiters often try to access a candidate's facebook account, and we're often warned about the content that we make visible to the public.  

I think that here a lot of people spend a lot of time on facebook simply as a distraction... so anything new that anyone posts is very likely to be seen.  It's pretty rare for someone here not to at least have a facebook account, so I'm wondering if it's the same in France/at ENSAM.  Do most students have facebook, how often do they use it, and what are the main reasons that you use it?

Pierre,

I used to use Facebook to keep in touch with high school friends and post pictures, but lately I haven't gotten on as much. Now, the main reason I go on is to see what events are happening on campus over the weekend.

We also hear that recruiters are using Facebook to get to know applicants. Because of that, and because not all "friends" a person has may be the same age, people can get very angry if something bad is posted about them on Facebook. 

Are your parents on Facebook? A lot of American students get "friended" by their parents or other relatives. Many websites are devoted to funny things their parents said on Facebook. Is the idea of a relative friending you on Facebook unusual or normal for you?

I don't spend much time on Facebook, but I go on it occasionally to check my friends' updates. The friends on my Facebook might be someone who I've never met or talked directly with. That's why, I feel unconfortable to share any private information online.

To Pierre's question about job recruiter, I've heard people got rejected in the last round because of lots of drinking pictures of him on his Facebook.

When people add you, do u usually just add them without thinking, or after checking?

Pierre, your last point about facebook is interesting. We would like it to be that if we set our settings correctly, then it would be as private as we really want it to be. That is the ideal.

However, that doesn't really correlate with what Facebook Inc really wants. Ideally, in order to be able to actually monetize this potentially huge beast of a company, they want your information public. They want to be able to have google crawl all over your profile and everyone else's. Recently, they tried to change this surreptitiously and added a profile setting that everyone had to opt out of in order to keep it as private as you said. 

I would be surprised if these kinds of acts weren't more of a normal occurence going forward. They have a strong incentive to make everyone share everything. 

From a different perspective, I consider these sites such as facebook, twitter, google, and various Asian ones (primarily Chinese, e.g. Baidu), and notice that all of the entrepreneurship stems from America/Asia. What about France, or Europe if you like? What products are entrepreneurs producing from that region? I might be forgetting something obvious, but if you know of any interesting designs flying under the radar, I'd love to hear about them. 

Bonjour,

Do French schools instruct their students on internet safety?[Lauren]

Oui, depuis que nous sommes dans cette école d'ingénieur, certains professeurs nous parlent de sécurité des informations sur internet, c'est surtout vis à vis du recrutement. De plus en plus d'entreprises regardent qui nous sommes, et entre autres peuvent le savoir grace à des sites tel que Facebook. Mais je pense que c'est surtout depuis que Facebook a explosé que les écoles se mettent à parler de cela.

Je ne pourrai pas répondre aux autres questions, car je fais parti des gens qui ne sont pas inscrits sur Facebook!!

 

 

N'empèche que très peu de gens ne sont pas sur facebook à l'ENSAM (5% maxi ^^)

Nos parents sont peu sur facebook il me semble (et je n'aimerai pas qu'ils y soient personnellement...)

Je n'ajoute pas sans demander qui c'est avant pour ma part

Just out of curiosity, how many of you guys got facebook after this discussion? And how did you guys mainly keep in touch with friends from back home? I can tell you that I use facebook almost exclusively to talk to my friends from high school. Did you mainly use telephone, email, or (god forbid) write letters?

On a more serious note, it also seemed that you guys would be more likely to confront your friends to express your displeasure. Is it because at L'ENSAM you guys are a tight-knit community, so you're more comfortable sharing your feelings, or is it something more cultural to express your displeasure?

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