You are at a party and you see one of your friends getting very drunk.

Vous êtes à une soirée et vous voyez un/e de vos amis en train de boire beaucoup trop.

give him water and make sure my friend is alright

Go check on them and see if they are okay. Make sure they stay near me.

I keep a watch on them knowing that getting drunk is their call, but I will definitely be there for them afterwards to make sure he/she gets home safely and spends the night okay. However, if things seem to be getting out of hand, I will try to get him/her home.

I keep an eye on my friend and encourage her to pace herself with water.

I let him be. It is his personal freedom. Only if he poses a risk to himself and others, I remind him in a casual manner to take it easy.

I stop him/her from drinking anymore.

I will care for my friend as much as I can.

I would advise not to lose consciousness, and to remain in control of his actions.

I would go talk to them and make sure they were ok, and keep checking up on them through the night.

I would keep an eye on the friend just in case she needs medical attention later on. I would calmly try to give her food/water and keep her away from extra alcohol, without being too pushy or ruining the fun.

I would offer them my couch.

I would remove any alcohol that's in his/her hands and then take him/her to their bed and make sure they had a bucket/trash can close at hand. I would leave until they fell soundly asleep.

I would stop my friend from drinking more and make sure that he or she would be okay and that he or she would not be driving home.

I would tell him to not have any more drinks and keep a look out for him/her.

I would tell them to stop drinking.

I would try to get them to stop drinking, but at the very least I will keep an eye on them.

I'd go over and make sure they're okay. If they're alone, I'd stay with them and get them home safe.

I'd let him continue then I'd help to take care of him later on that night and the next morning.

I'd tell him or her to stop drinking and help him or her get to a safer place.

make sure they don't have anymore to drink and drink water (slowly) and if it's really bad, make them leave the party

Switch their drink out with water and keep an eye on them.

-ça va ? allez, finis ta bouteille et je te ramène. J'appelle ma mère pour qu'elle vienne nous chercher.

Ce n'est pas si grave si il/elle ne conduit pas. S'il/elle est pénible, je l'isole et vais prendre l'air avec lui/elle.

demande la raison et lui conseille d'arrêter

J'essaie de le faire arrêter.

je fais attention à lui/elle

je fais la remarque

Je le demanderais s'il n'a pas déjà assez bu.

je le surveille d'un oeil et en particulier je m'assure qu'il ne conduit pas

je lui dirais de ralentir un peu et de boire un verre d'eau. Puis je raccompagnerais cette personne à son domicile au moment du départ

Je lui dis d'y aller plus doucement, et qu'il assumera les conséquences de ses actes. Je ne lui interdis pas.

Je lui dis de faire attention et je le rapelle qu'il/elle a déjà trop bu.

Je lui fais la réflexion une ou deux fois et le/la surveille du coin de l'oeil.

Je lui prends ses clefs de voiture.

Je lui suggère de limiter sa consommation.

je m'assure qu'il/elle rentre bien a la maison

Je vais la voir, lui demande si ça va et lui propose de danser plutôt que continuer à boire

Je vais lui faire la remarque sur un ton humoristique et je vais veiller autant que je peux à ce qu'il ne se reserve pas

Je vais lui parler pour voir si il/elle va bien

Je veillerais sur lui, je lui dirais de ralentir la cadence et je resterais vigilante.

s'il est capable d'en supporter les conséquences je ne m'en occupe pas sauf s'il se met en danger.

Discussion

The responses here seemed to be very similar.  It seems that most people of both sides would check to make sure the person is okay and not in any immediate danger, but not take forceful action.  This seems reasonable to me personally, but I understand that other people may think differently.  This is a difficult situation because most people would care for someone in danger, but the person drinking also "has the right" to drink as they please.

 

What do you all think about a person having the "personal freedom" to drink as they please?

It's largely a cultural thing. I know that in my home country of New Zealand, getting absolutely trashed is seen by most people as perfectly acceptable, and it's only when someone start's throwing up/stumbling over that we need to start taking care of them. But different people have different views on alcohol and what is/isn't okay.

I believe a person should be free to drink as much as they want as long as they don't harm other people in the process. "Harming other people" is a relative thing and the Americans and French seem to have a different view on it. 

I though it was interesting that none of the French said they would make their friend stop drinking, they only said they would suggest that. Whereas in the American side about 8 people said they would make their friends stop.

C'est vrai Clarissa qu'aucun des francais ne lui interdis ensuite de boire d'avantage. L'alcool chez nous est-il devenu une consommation qui se banaliserait, que nous cotoyons assez souvent?
Il en ressort effectivement un coté peut etre "egoiste" de notre part, se résumant au fait de laisser continuer, de faire juste attention à lui en le regardant de temps en temps, mais on ne prend clairement pas position et ne l'obligeons pas à arrêter.

 

Je suis d'accord avec Brice ! Le fait de boire trop est plutôt une chose courante, on en a pas vraiment peur, ni de ses effets ni de ses conséquences. Du coup, on aura tendance à laisser boire des personnes déjà saouls sans trop de remords. Est ce une bonne ou une mauvaise chose, je ne sais pas trop. Les réactions des américains m'ont surpris : si quelqu'un me forçait à arrêter, je serais surêment un peu énervée.

For me at least, if I saw a friend drinking too much, I wouldn't want her to make a fool of herself and be embarrassed about her drunken actions later.

Additionally, in America, we often hear stories about people getting sick from alcohol poisoning or drowning in pools of their own vomit. We have seminars about these kinds of things when we first start college. I think such things scare us into intervening. Are there such public service announcements and warnings in France? If so, do people take them seriously?

 

The fact that most Americans responded that they would make their friends stop drinking may also be related to the fact that that friends was probably underage. I believe most of the alcohol experiences most students in our class had was this “illegal” drinking. I feel like in France your age does not matter as much in terms of drinking. Is that correct? Also, drinking seems to be less of a taboo than it is here in the US, where being drunk usually leads to embarrassment, as Tayo pointed out. 

I agree with mostly everything that has been said. To address what Clarissa said, I don't think it's because the friend was probably underage. I and I think most of my friends would also stop each other from having more, even though we're all of age. I do think that it has more to do with drinking being less acceptable and leading to embarrasment in the U.S.

Is drinking in the US a taboo? Maybe I've just been around/seen college settings for a while, but I find it more strange to meet someone (underage or not) that doesn't drink that it is to find one that does.

I do agree with the embarassment thing, because for a while it's funny, but it can go too far pretty quickly.

Je crois qu'en France, nous sommes surtout sensibilisés à l'alcool au volant (d'où un grand nombre de réponse précisant que l'on empêcherai la personne de conduire) plutôt qu'à la simple sur-consommation d'alcool. Est ce que c'est également le cas aux Etats-Unis?

@Tayo, pour répondre à ta question, je pense que comme Laurence l'explique, nous sommes surtout sensibilisés au sujet de l'alcool au volant plus qu'aux dangers de l'alcool tout court. Il y a des pubs de temps en temps à la télé (surtout autour des vacances d'été) pour sensibiliser les jeunes à ce problème. Mais autour de moi, ces pubs ne sont jamais vraiment prises au sérieux car elles emblent toujours montrer des extrêmes dans lesquels on ne se reconnait pas vraiment.

@Clarissa, c'est vrai que boire de l'alcool n'est pas un taboo en France. Lorsque j'avais 10 ans, mon père me laissait essayer de boire du vin dans son verre sans problème bien que cela ne plaise pas beaucoup à ma mère! Lorsque j'étais aux Etats-Unis j'avais été très surprise par les "liquor stores" , en France on achète de l'alcool dans les grandes surfaces. 

 

@Laurence, here in the U.S., we are constantly warned about the dangers of drinking and driving.  However, this is typically connected with the dangers of drinking.  The approach to the problem of drinking and driving is to only focus on the problem of drinking, not the combined dangers of drinking and driving.  However, I am from the South of the U.S., where the general population is typically much more conservative than the rest of the United States.  As a child in school, we were warned of the "huge dangers" that drinking can pose, even if a person only drinks a little.  

 

In answer to your question though, I think that the people (wrongly) focus on the problems of simply drinking, not drinking and driving.

I think for me personally, the reason why I wouldn't have a problem stopping someone from drinking more is because the good you do in having them stop is worth them being mad at you. I don't think any friends have said to me the next day (assuming they'd even remember being cut off from the bottle) that they were still mad that I didn't let them drink to the point of getting sick.