You are at the movies. The people sitting right behind you make loud comments about the film.
Vous êtes au cinéma et des gens assis derrière vous commentent le film à voix haute.
Feel disrespected. If it continues, ask them politely to lower their voice.
I turn around and stare
I would ignore them unless they continued to talk for more than 10-15 minutes. Then I would ask them to be quiet.
I would probably first look to see their appearance. If they look like they are troublesome, I would leave them alone; if not, I would cordially ask them to let me enjoy the movie.
I would probably not confront them, but may make subtle indications that they were being annoying--turning around to look at the perhaps. If they continued I may find a new seat.
i would say: "can you keep it down please?"
I would think they are very rude and maybe turn and glare at them.
I would turn around and ask them to be quiet, and that other people are trying to enjoy the movie.
I would turn around and ask them to be quieter because I am having trouble hearing the movie.
I would turn around and ask them to please be considerate and keep their voices down.
I would turn around and insist politely that they respect the rights of others.
I would turn around and tell them to be quiet becuase I want to watch the movie.
I would turn back and give them a stare.
I would turn back and say "Sshh!"
I would yell at them.
If I am with a date, I would suggest relocation
If it started to annoy me I would ask them to be quiet.
If they are speaking during the film, I will turn around. Usually that is enough to silence people. If they are really noisy, you can ask them to be quiet.
ignore them for a while and then ask them to be quiet.
Turn around and politely ask them to speak more quietly.
"est-il possible que vous vous taisiez?" sans sourire et d'un ton sec.
Est-ce que vous pourriez commenter en privé après le film, SVP?
Je dis "Chut !!". Ca m'exaspère !
Je les regarde d'abord, si je ne peux plus supporter, je vais leur dire "calme".
Je leur demande de se taire poliement. Si cela ne suffit pas, je crains de m'énerver!
Je leur demande de se taire.
je leur demande le plus poliment possible de se taire non sans m'énerver rapidement
je leur fais comprendre que ça me dérange, en augmentant progressivement le ton
je me retourne et dis "pourriez vous vous taire s'il vous plait?"
je me retourne et dis "vous ne pourriez pas faire ça plus tard?"
je me retourne et leur demande de se taire
je me retourne et leur demande courtoisement un peu de silence.
je me retourne et regarde qui c'est
je me retourne pour leur lancer un regard accusateur
je ne dis rien
je rage intérieurement mais ne fais pas d'éclat.
je tâche de les ignorer, sinon je leur demande calmement de se taire
Je vais changer de place.
Discussion
I
thought that the two responses were surprisingly similar. I had
expected maybe for the French students to be more polite and the
Americans ruder, but that didn't seem to be the case. There might be
smaller, more intangible differences I am not picking up on. I know
that this situation happens all the time in America (even though we
consider it impolite), does it happen often in France or is it
considered very rude?
I
actually thought there was a distinguishable difference in the relative
proportions of responses. While most of the Polytecniciens said that
they would ask the person directly to quiet down, a substantial number
of us said that we would stare/glare at them, try to ignore them, or
move.
I certainly don't think we're any less annoyed by the movie-going antics.
I might venture a guess that Americans tend to be more
passive-aggressive than Europeans. But that is probably because the few
Europeans I've known have seemed very direct and assertive, while the
people I know seem to be the type to "rage on the inside and not say
anything." Probably unfair to make such broad generalizations, but I'm
still curious about what others might have to say on the subject...
I think the responses were varied because the reactions are based upon personality and not the culture of the people.
If you are an aggressive go getter type then you might be more
prone to yell at the person. But if you are the quiet type then you
might be more inclined to sit and hope that they calm down.
In that sense, I think that we are similar. We let the person
choose their own choice of actions. No cultural bearings corner us to
make the same decisions.
Maybe we are more similar than dissimilar.
Jin Kim
This
is all interesting to me because I had always seen french people as
being more subtle than the direct approach americans...in terms of
language this seems to be true, although it is different in terms of
action taken...
I
have to agree with Ashley here. Although there were many similarities
in the answers, I felt like the French reactions were more agressive
than the American ones. Many MIT students would not do anything
initially (aside from maybe looking back). Additionally, when they
would do something, they would say "would you mind" or "please".
Meanwhile, I felt X students were less patient and would immediately
turn back and tell the people behind them to be quiet, which gives me
the indication that this situation annoys French people much more than
Americans.
Do you think that's a fair assessment? I personally relate to
the overall French reaction much more, as I am not a patient person and
would immediately tell them to shut up.
When comparing this situation with others, however, I felt
like there were a lot of times where the French reaction was much more
calm than the US one. In what situations do you think the French are
more agressive/get upset easier?
Bonjour à tous. Désolé pour ma faible participation au forum cette semaine, mais me revoilà.
Je trouve la réponse de Jin très pertinente : il faut dans ce
thème s'attacher entre autre aux différences de personalités. Ainsi
nous observons des réponses assez nuancées autant pour les X que pour
vous au MIT.
Toutefois, je pense qu'il y a tout de même un aspect culturel
à considérer et plus particulièrement les différences d'éducations dans
les deux pays. Parce qu'en effet, la politesse est fortement liée à
l'éducation. Pour répondre à ta question Lisa, ce genre de choses
arrive rarement en France car elles ne sont pas accepté. En terme
d'éducation, respecter les autres c'est quelque chose de très important
ici en France!
Mon explication est la suivante. Outre les nuances dans la
façon de répondre de part et d'autre de l'atlantique, il apparait
clairement que l'on retrouve une pensée très tournée vers le "bien" de
tous en France : on n'accepte pas le non respect du loisir de l'autre.
En revanche, aux Etats Unis, je pense que c'est l'individualisme qui
prédomine... y compris dans les salles de cinéma, "moi d'abord" et les
autres on verra : je parle si j'en ai l'envi!
Finalement, outre les différences de personalité, cette
situation est peut-être une particularisation de la différence
fondamentale d'éducation entre les deux pays : un souci plus général en
France, plus individualiste aux Etats Unis.