Mais au fait, vous ecoutez quoi comme musique en ce moment ? A+ Emilie

i've noticed in general, that the french tend to be more direct and confrontational. there were very little responses about ignoring the music or doing nothing; whereas, there were more responses about doing nothing on the american side.

bonjour tous,

Je suis encore étonné par les réponses de ce questionnaire que je compare à celles sur le bon voisin. Aux Us vous semblez plus proches de vos voisins, qu'ici; or lorsqu'il s'agit justement de rencontrer ce voisin qui écoute de la musique trop fort, les français semblent plus communiquant que les américains qui éludent la situation.

Cela demande explication chers amis d'outre altlantique !

A bientot

JC

I also think that maybe the reason the US responses were less confrontational was because we are close to our neighbors. Sometimes my neighbors are loud at night, but unless they are loud every night, really late at night (midnight isn't that late), I wouldn't say anything to them because I wouldn't want to have bad relations with the people I live with. Also, I would usually rather not have to get out of bed to go deal with it :)

I assume from some of the responses on the French side that you live in dormitories. Do you consider your neighbors to be friends, and if so, wouldn't you want to avoid confrontation about something small like loud music?

I think, whether you confront your neighbor or not, depends on your mindset at the time. If you're not doing anything in particular, you might just want to go join the party. However, if you're trying to study or sleep, you might get very irritated and say something to your neighbor. I'm not sure if this is connected in any way to the apparent, more confrontational, nature of French people in this exercise.

I don't belive that our responses differed that much, since both sides have pretty much the same collection of answers, just at different rates, and that could just be do to our random sample of sutdents. I do have two questions though, one, how would your reactions differ (if at all) if this was a dorm/hotel or apartment/house, and two, is there a law in France that sets specific quiet hours at night?

For this particular situation, the majority of the french reactions were aggressive. Most people would ask their neighbor to turn down the music. I thought the french were passive(in the case of the mother slapping her child). How come in this situation, the french behave aggressively?

I noticed that in this situation, the french are very aggressive, compared to the situation of the mother slapping her child. Why the difference? Hiw come in one situation, the french are passive, but in another situation, they are aggressive?

I know I wouldn't do much if my neighbors were loud for a couple reasons. One, I know them well and two, I realize that if they are loud every once in awhile that I probably am loud sometimes. I also agree that my reaction would depend on the mood I am in.

suppose it also makes a difference HOW people ask to turn the music down. in this aspect i'd say the french would be more aggressive, and us here (i don't want to lump everyone here together under "americans") would be more polite. That's probably why the french appear to be so snappy in films- to them, that's normal but to us it seems far too similar to giving orders.

Salut, Je pense également que notre réaction face à ce genre de problèmes dépend de ce que vous êtes en train de faire, et dépend également de la fréquence. si mon voisin met la musique très fort tous les soirs jusqu'à 2 ou 3 heures du matin, je crois que je finirai par lui dire. Si ce n'est qu'une fois de temps en temps, je ne dirai rien : tout d'abord, parce que cela permet d'avoir de bonnes relations avec ses voisins, et également parce que si cela m'arrive de faire la même chose, il comprendra. Echanges de bons procédés.